Fae and Sex ǀ The Incubus – Immortal Monday

Let’s talk Fae today. Immortal Monday has been itching for the topic since its inception. The few mentions of Prince Nuana, as of late, have not helped to keep that interest at bay. Although Prince Nuana is not Fae, but a Bethmoora elf, rather, it still pulls my mind in that direction. Bethmoora is the fabled original Faerieland. How can that NOT have you thinking FAE? See how my mind works?

As for Fae, there are so many variations, one may never know where to start. My daughter can count that high… we’ve been practicing, but would we miss one and need to start over? I thought I’d make it easy and talk about one type in particular today. Where sex comes into play with our mystical Fae – there is the incubus. This is the male Fae using sex almost like a weapon. Karen Marie Moning introduced used to a death by sex Fae in her Fever Series. Although this Fae does not hold a seat in the actual dictionary of Fae, other than in Ms. Moning’s world, it isn’t a stretch to think an incubus may have slightly influenced this creation.

The incubi are said to lie with the human women at night while they are sleeping. So, take all that strength and power we saw in the weapon show Prince Nuana gave us in Friday’s video, and think of it now turned into something much more intimate. I’ve heard it said they are impossible to resist. What Ms. Moning did was brilliant, simply releasing the time limitation and allowing the Fae to walk freely among us all day. It could be anyone. Any blinding, gorgeous hunk of male, that is.

But one visit, what does that do? Give a girl a good romp to wonder and gossip about? Actually, the incubus preys on the life force of their victims. Continued visits will eventually leave them depleted, unhealthy, possibly even succumbing to death.

The female counterpart is known of as the Succubus and is much more famous. She seduces men, taking them to bed and having much the same effect – draining them of their life force. The original Succubus goes as far back as the Garden of Eden. It is believed that before there was Eve there was Lilith (Sound familiar all you Supernatural fans?). Lilith became a succubus and left Adam to mate with the archangel Samael, and refused to return to the Garden of Eden. The first incubus doesn’t show up until 2400 BC. Clearly, the females have the upper hand on the lay of the land on this one.

Oh, but the incubus contributed a huge name to myth and legend. Or so it is said. It is written that Merlin, of the Legend of King Arthur, was a cambion and his father was an incubus. The source of Merlin’s great power.

Traditionally, both the incubus and succubus have been looked at as harmful demons with few exceptions. But with today’s fads and many interests, it’s no wonder that we can find a show celebrating this version of Fae. It’s not that far of a leap from the huge vampire rage and it still covers the realm of paranormal and romance angst so many are looking for. Welcome Lost Girl, where a succubus can be confused about what she is, while exploring her power. Toss in a plucky side kick and some competing love interest of varied taste. And, hey, she’s a succubus, so anything goes. Then make her a little bit of a badass herself, but one that needs a rescue every now and again – after all, she’s still learning. The result – Lost Girl.

This show is in its third season overseas, but here in the U.S., we are just seeing it for the first time. I don’t know about you, but I do so enjoy watching other’s take on creatures such as this. Like I’ve said SO many times before, you never know where that spark of inspiration will come from. 😉

Speaking of… do you find sex inspirational in your movies and books? Romance novels are still the best-selling books on the market. Sex sells. It’s slowly been creeping into more areas of our entertainment each year. Just look at what you can find on television now versus five years ago. I write young adult fiction and have been following a group called Edgy YA. It might surprise you what is allowed in some books for teens these days. Of course, many teachers and schools are filtering them out of their systems, but they still can be found  should the teen so desire to read them, in the shops and libraries. An interesting discussion on this topic broke out at the beginning of Jenny Hansen’s Row80 Check-in. If the topic interest you, it’s worth a read.


Look for a change in this week’s posting schedule. Things are set to run Thursday and Saturday this time around. Look forward to seeing you then. 🙂

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37 thoughts on “Fae and Sex ǀ The Incubus – Immortal Monday”

  1. Coleen PatrickColeen Patrick

    The incubus and sucubus have always seemed scary to me!
    But I do love a good romance story 🙂

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      In their true form, they really are Coleen. Scary.

      Today’s story telling is morphing them into something more magical. Like Twilight did for vampires. Ha ha Except Lost Girl is a little more gritty and kick @$$.

  2. Emma BurcartEmma Burcart

    Thanks for explaining the incubus and sucubus. I always pictured them more like giant insects, and I didn’t know there was a difference between the two. I agree with Coleen. If the show is done like Buffy or Grimm, then I can handle it because the story keeps it from being too scary.

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      The show isn’t scary. It’s definitly done in that type of style, just a little sexier.

  3. Jennette Marie PowellJennette Marie Powell

    The incubus is certainly an intriguing component of demon mythology! One of the best books I read last year featured an incubus as the hero: Save My Soul by Zoe Winters. He was certainly not your typical good-guy hero, but the way she wrote him totally worked! Highly recommended for a unique paranormal romance!

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      Very curious, Jennette. That just supports what I’m saying. People are taking the dark Fae and making him, or her, appealing – giving them a good side, a redeeming side. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing. I’m just pointing it out.

  4. susielindaususielindau

    When I blogged A Sexercise for My Book, I got a lot of views, but heard crickets in my comment section. No surprise there. Once a couple “broke the ice,” then they started to roll in. I think everyone enjoys good sex scenes, but there still seems to be an overwhelming uptightness in this country. I am planning to include some in my book.
    Great post! Wild show!

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      Oh, yeah. Everyone likes it. Many are just embarrassed to talk about it in public. My book has some hot and heavy scenes. Keep in mind, I write YA. I don’t write for shock. I write to fit the story. I worried about it at first, but it has been well received.

      I’m surprised you needed someone to break the ice on your fiction piece. You always get a ton of comments. That’s funny. 😀

  5. Lisa Hall-WilsonLisa Hall-Wilson

    I’m not familiar with the story of Lilith, but the incubus can be found in the Bible – their offspring were called Niphilim (giants). I have a lot of personal views on this topic (which I’ll keep to myself) but this was a balance overview of the topic. I think Laurell Hamilton’s Anita Blake vampire slayer has a succubus angle to it as well – in the later books of the series.

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      So funny. I remember answering this. I guess I only did it in my head. That’s me and my crazy schedule. I am not as familiar with Laurell Hamilton’s later books, but I can talk about the Niphilim. I completely understand keeping your personal views to yourself. I am the same way. Public forums are not the place for anything dealing in religious matter. I do find them fascinating though. The Niphilim being half angel and half human. In the case of this story, half succubus. Sameal being the angel involved in the fathering. In some of my research I came across many photos taken around the world where they had unearthed the bones of giants. They were professing these bones to those of Niphilim. I have to say, I am extremely curious as to their validity.

  6. Louise BehielLouise Behiel

    You are a font of info Debra . Lie with women while they’re asleep? THAT is why Im so tired these days. Vbg

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      😀 Do you get good dreams out of it?

      Thank you, Louise.

  7. ElisaElisa

    How interesting about Merlin! Your posts always get me thinking, especially about subplots for my stories 🙂

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      I’m glad I can help with the subplots. 😉 I MISS you Elisa! By the time I pop over to your blog it’s always Friday and I’m reading Fishducky. 🙂 I like Fishducky, I need to get over there earlier in the week. So many bloggers, so little time.

  8. EmmaEmma

    My friend is always raving about Lost Girl but I watch so many supernatural shows already that I skip it whenever it’s on. Going to give it a try now after this post. Since I already watch tv shows with vampires, witches and zombies, I might as well add incubi & sucubi to the mix 🙂

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      I know what you are saying. I don’t like adding new shows to my list either. I multi-task. I have a hard time sitting still to just watch a show. I must do something else at the same time, such as fold laundry, check FB, etc.

  9. Fabio BuenoFabio Bueno

    This is fascinating, Debra! I had heard about Lilith and succubus, but not about everything else. It’s easy to see the allure of the legend, and how it can be used to great effect in stories.
    One of crit partners loves Lost Girl. After this clip, I have to check it out!
    Thank you, Ms. Walking Encyclopedia!

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      There’s something I have NEVER thought of myself as – Ms. Walking Encyclopedia. 😀 I have an interest in the unusual and strange. My husband knows everything else! LOL No, seriously. Hehehe With shows like Lost Girl, you never know what minor detail will inspire some subplot for your story. That’s the way I look at it.

  10. Kristy K. James...Living, Loving, LaughingKristy K. James...Living, Loving, Laughing

    I thought Lilith ate babies. Maybe it was someone else on Supernatural (didn’t like that episode). I’m not going to watch any ‘scary’ show except Supernatural anymore, so no Lost Girls for me. I tried The Gates for the single season it was on…and wound up sleeping with my bathroom light on for a few nights. I think there’s only so much scary my poor mind can take, lol. 🙂

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      Lilith was bringing up her babies from Hell. All her babies were Demons. There may have been an episode were one of her babies ate babies. I don’t recall. I can handle that kind of stuff. When you get into the true demon possession, that’s when I have to step back. I don’t want to invite that in.I don’t know how horror writers handle it. I couldn’t keep that story going in my head for that length of time.

      • Kristy K. James...Living, Loving, LaughingKristy K. James...Living, Loving, Laughing

        There was an episode where babies were being stolen from hospital nurseries for Lilith (I HATED it!). And I know what you mean. I’ve had to pass on a number of episodes of Supernatural…just walk out of the room. But honestly, what bothers me more are the crime dramas like CSI. I can’t handle those at all.

  11. CC MacKenzieCC MacKenzie

    Karen Marie Moning is one of my faves as is Kresley Cole and Heather Killough-Walden (who’s improving all the time she came via the indie route) and then Nalini Singh is rocking her own little world.

    YA is not really my thing and I’m not surprised at all to find s$x being slipped in. To be honest violence is more of an issue for me. Even Harry Potter actually started out with child abuse – Harry being kept since a baby in the cupboard under the stairs. When I first read that I cried. (I had a horrible great Uncle who did that in real life to his children. I hope he’s suffering in the hot, burny place. Sorry to digress.)

    Romance is a big part of everyone’s lives. We wouldn’t be walking the earth without it and I think it’s why the genre is selling in the billions throughout the world. People tend to confuse romance with sex and although it certainly can have reasonably hot scenes, most romances deal with the emotional journey between two people who meet ‘the one’ and fall in love. It’s that simple and that hard to write well. Age has nothing to do with it either which is why I think the YA’s like to see the genre approached from their own angle. Love makes the world go round – don’t know who said it but it’s true.

    Strangely enough I can watch reasonably scary stuff about vampires etc and not turn a hair. But some series, like Supernatural, can press my buttons and I need the light on.

    Great post, Debs.

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      I completely agree. People do confuse romance with sex. You can easily have one without the other. And yes, teens are trying to find their way. That’s why their books are starting to find more of this stuff. That’s my take, anyway. I like the romance factor, but I know a lot of people that really feel disappointed if they don’t get the sex scene at the end of the day.

      As for violence, I agree, what happened to Harry was horrid. I believe that writing it into books shows children they are not alone. The world is not a perfect place. They didn’t condone his uncle’s actions. In fact, once contacted he was told Harry was to have his own room. Granted, there is more they could have done, but they needed his aunt and uncle to keep Harry under their protection. One of my favorite stories actually deals with some really horrible child abuse (I’m sorry to say) and some fabulous payback (at the end of the day). I found that part of the story necessary in the character’s development for future events and I really fell in love with the characters. Not that I condone violence or abuse in any away. But look at how well The Hunger Games is doing? Fabulous book, but the idea of such a thing actually taking place – appalling.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for your wonderful comment, Christine.

  12. zebachettizebachetti

    hello a nice video ido not speak english a greeting from italy Nazzareno

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      Saluti. Grazie per aver visitato! Sono contento che ti è piaciuto il video. 🙂

  13. Melinda VanLoneMelinda VanLone

    Awesome timing Debra! I have some of this Fae action happening in my next book…it’s good to see other takes on it. Nothing like a fun romp in the sheets to spice up a plot, huh? 😀

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      Hmm. There might be some of this already happening… somewhere. I’m not saying where. 😉 Are you going to share this next book? Nothing wrong with a little spice. 😀

  14. Ninni RaimondiNinni Raimondi

    Interestingly the expression of the nightmare and as you describe.
    Distances are eliminated and the comparison becomes serious and pleasant.
    Really good.
    I’m following closely.

    Ninni Raimondi, Journalist
    Bologna, Italy

  15. Karen RoughtKaren Rought

    This was great! Brings up images of the painting “The Nightmare” by Henry Fuseli, which features the image of an incubus.

    Have you ever read the series Wicked Lovely? The main characters are fey. It was my first real introduction to them and this idea that not all faeries have wings and pixie dust. I liked it.

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      I haven’t read that book yet, but it’s been on my radar. You recommend it? I love the fae. The only time I deal with winged faeries and pixie dust is when I’m watching something with my daughter. 🙂 I’ve been exploring the world of fae, there are so many. Dark and light. I plan on linking sites with diconaries in the near future.

      • Karen RoughtKaren Rought

        Yes! The first and last books are the best, but the in between ones aren’t too bad either. It was pretty different from what I was reading previously, so I think that threw me off a little bit. It’s a dark world, which I enjoyed. It’s also an incredibly “full” and in-depth world, which I also thought was great.

  16. jbw0123jbw0123

    Sex sells all right, and you’re right, it sure is moving into the main of mainstream. When I watched the opening show from King of Thrones my jaw just about dropped to the floor. Didn’t stop me from taping the rest of the series. Still, it is nice sometimes to have sex alluded to, hinted at, almost portrayed but not quite.

    Wonder why I always thought of incubus as the female version? Maybe because I don’t identify female with something that sounds like a cactus?

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      I hadn’t read the books before tuning in for the show and was also taken back by what I saw. But it didn’t stop me from watching the entire first season and anxiously awaiting the second! LOL Great show! In reference to the other comments – I haven’t been following the hype about 50 Shades of Grey too closely, but I can see how the popularity would spin out of control if it started as fan fiction over Bella and Edward. Everyone wanted them to go farther. (Raises brow) Their PG-13 action wasn’t enough for many of the mommies reading that top seller. LOL If with the names changed, if everyone now associates it with the famous couple it’s going to be big. Wouldn’t you agree? Stephanie would make a killing if shw would ever finish “Midnight Sun.” She’s already established a rediculously loyal fan base.

  17. jbw0123jbw0123

    P.S. Have you been following the hype about “50 Shades of Grey”? Written by an almost unknown woman, E.L. James, billed by readers as Mommy Porn (i.e., a book about sex that women love), it went viral before the N.Y. Times book list got wind of it. I guess the Kindle, the ultimate brown paper bag covering, offers privacy of reading choice that encourage women to venture where bodice-ripping covers never allowed before.

    • EmmaEmma

      I only recently read a really interesting blog post on E.J. James. Apparently 50 Shades of Grey started off as Twilight fan fiction for adults and then the names of Bella and Edward were changed upon publication. This book is currently a huge success.

  18. Molly PendleburyMolly Pendlebury

    That looks intense! I haven’t gotten into too much immortal stuff. I liked the first season of True Blood and saw the first 2 Twilight movies but, haven’t read any of those books. I’d like to get into the genre but, can’t seem to find the time to put it in there.

    • Debra KristiDebra Kristi

      Hey Molly! The genre isn’t for everyone. No worries if it isn’t for you. I get enough of realism in my everyday life so I like to escape reality with what I read. Not everyone feels the same. I appreciate you taking the time to stop in! I have to say, as for Twilight, more people liked the books more than the movies. You many not feel that way. Depends on if you like quick gratification or not. But there was more depth to Bella’s character in the book. True Blood, on the other hand, well that one can go either way if you ask me.

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